“It’s just a precaution,” they said. “You’re so young.” We were in the prime of our life – newlyweds only a few months. But there was nothing to worry about. After all, it was just a precaution.
Suddenly, unbeknownst to us, our newlywed twosome became a threesome – Roger, Myself, and Cancer. The Third Wheel. The Unwanted House Guest. Stage IIB – 30 years old.
The next 12 months included a battery of doctors visits, surgeries and 6 grueling months of chemo. Many of our decisions were made on intuition because there are no road maps available on this trip.
You’re expected to become a doctor overnight.
Intuition led us to freeze embryos; to plan for our future despite all recommendations. We wanted to give ourselves an insurance policy for our newlywed hopes and dreams.
We embraced that Cancer was along for the ride, but he’s not driving the bus. We cashed in that insurance policy. In April 2015, we will welcome our son via gestational carrier.We didn’t give up on our dreams; we just had a few detours. When you tell someone you’re stage IV and having a child, judgement ensues, but I can’t think of anything more responsible than bringing life into this world and showing him first hand how to be a warrior and stand strong through adversity; how to be a champion of a cause; and how to love with your whole soul. He’s going to be amazing and I’m going to do everything I can to make sure I’m here to see it.
Dear Courtney passed away October 18, 2016. We are saddened by the passing of our dear friend Courtney Bax Lasater on October 18, 2016. She will live in our hearts forever and her smile will surely never fade from our memories. Courtney, we will always love you.